After long, heated discussions, we often conclude by saying, "We will just have to agree to disagree." This sounds very noble on the surface - but is it the attitude that God wants from us?
Certainly we should give a nod to behaving as grown ups. You may as seen video clips of government officials in other countries resort to physically fighting during sessions of parliament. While we may find it amusing on some level, it is hard to believe that much is resolved by this kind of childish behavior.
However, "agreeing to disagree" does not seem to accomplish much either. This philosophy is designed to bring unity - but its does not really accomplish that. Rather it sends us on our way with an anger that is simmering within us - ready to boil over at the next provocation.
Even in the church, we seem to celebrate many diverse views of God. While we should not go to war over certain minor points, we should to diligently seek the truth, according to God's point of view, with all our hearts.
I am not advocating pressing our own views until we see results. I am advocating personally upping our games in our walk with God. We can see alternative views of God and life - as long as it is still God we are looking at and describing. It is easy explore our imaginations or desires and create a god to our liking. But those are not really gods. There is only One, True, living God!
Paul teaches us the secret to unity:
1 Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy,
2 fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.
Today the church is in conflict on many issues, both theologically and politically. This should not be so. But may I suggest that the answer is not in "agreeing to disagree" but for each of us to seek God more diligently so we can all get on the same page - God's page!
The members of an orchestra cannot bring their own piece of music to a concert and "agree to disagree." They must all tune in to the same piece of music and understand it thoroughly. A beautifully played piece of music will be the result.
We must each examine ourselves:
How much time have we spent deeply meditating on God's Word?
How intense is our prayer life?
How strongly do we seek God's point of view?
How willing are we to submit to God's will when we do find it?
How can we claim to know the will of God if we do not know Him intimately? When we all get on the same page, there will be unity of the Spirit. Until then, we can only (sigh) settle for "agreeing to disagree."